HomeForumBlogProduct ReviewsAbout UsStoreGear
Sly Bald Guys Forum
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
Did you miss your activation email?
April 20, 2014, 05:49:55 PM
Home Help Search Links Login Register
Welcome to Sly Bald Guys! Please take a look around and pay special attention to our community. You won't find a more supportive group of men on the internet.


News: Sly Bald Guys is on Facebook.  Please help spread the word by adding us as a fan - http://www.facebook.com/pages/Sly-Bald-Guys/20746003649

+  Sly Bald Guys Forum
|-+  Confidence and Success
| |-+  Relationships/Dating
| | |-+  Prolonged Eye Contact with a Woman: Does it Mean Anything?
« previous next »
Pages: [1] 2
Digg This!StumbleUpon This site
Send this topic Print
Author Topic: Prolonged Eye Contact with a Woman: Does it Mean Anything?  (Read 5941 times)
benlen
Guest
« on: January 17, 2013, 09:53:58 PM »

Hello Sly Brothers, I have a question for you about women and eye contact!

So I just moved to Boston, going to grad school, and I see plenty of attractive women about! One day this week, I went to the art supply store to stock up on essentials, and there was this attractive strawberry blonde behind the desk who I noticed had these particularly vibrant eyes, and I wasn't laying on the moves or anything, just being friendly, and she was very friendly in return, and her eye contact was unusual. Most women don't hold that kind of gaze with strangers, I thought.

Flash forward to a few days later, who'd have thought in a city it could be a small world? I spot her coming out of her apartment on Huntington and again, the prolonged eye contact.

Personally guys, whenever a woman does this to me, and it is rare, I'm always stunned, because most women are taught safety wise that it's not good to look/establish eye contact with strangers on the street, because that can give sleezy guys all kinds of incentive to make a move.

Thing is, I'm pretty sure I saw her leave her building with a dude (I wasn't really looking though, to be honest, haha, as I was sort of held by her gaze) and I'm just not sure what to think of it!

Like, is this something where this woman is thinking, man this guy is weird? Is it just that she's a type who has certain shape of eyes that just lend themselves to being involving? Or does she potentially see me as at least somewhat attractive?

I don't know! She's attractive, but I'm not super interested in pursuing anyone right now, as i only got out a relationship in November.

The reason why this has me befuddled is, as a guy, I'm the one who is used to making the prolonged eye contact and making the moves. So I can't tell whether this woman is just comfortable or is actually oddly interested? What do you folks think? You won't offend me if you say its probably just her way, I'm looking for advice/experience on the mater!
Logged
Sly Bald Guys Forum
« on: January 17, 2013, 09:53:58 PM »

 Logged
marty22
Guest
« Reply #1 on: January 17, 2013, 10:23:23 PM »

Visit her again in the store and discreetly ask her out.
Logged
Hingatao
Sly Bureau
*****
Posts: 1288



« Reply #2 on: January 17, 2013, 10:42:14 PM »

I agree with Marty, even if it's just for a cup of coffee. Seems like the best way to find out if she's interested.
Logged
Gary~
Being...
Super Sly
****
Australia Australia
Posts: 385


27-April-2013


« Reply #3 on: January 17, 2013, 11:41:04 PM »

As you say -- that sort of behaviour is not usual for women. Sounds like you're in there with a chance. The problem is though that you will never know for sure unless you do as marty22 suggests.

On the other hand if you really don't want to be in a relationship at the moment then just forget it. Sounds like you're interested though.

Disclosure: I live on my own with a little dog, womanless.
Logged




                                    Be kind...
VoodooSyxx
Sly
***
United States United States
Posts: 179



« Reply #4 on: January 18, 2013, 01:19:52 AM »

Aye, it typically means they're either interested, or think you might be a weirdo. In most cases the potential weirdo look is a LOT different so I'm going to lean toward option 1. I'd ask her out if it were me. There's nothing that says you can't have a drink and some conversation, even if an actual relationship isn't the current target.
Logged
stasiu
Ultimate Sly Guy
*****
Posts: 737


All dressed up & no hair to go !


« Reply #5 on: January 18, 2013, 03:06:03 PM »

Visit her again in the store and discreetly ask her out.

That is probably best thing to do.  So she's smitten by your bald head and good looks ... making new friends never hurts ...
Logged
Sly Bald Guys Forum
« Reply #5 on: January 18, 2013, 03:06:03 PM »

 Logged
slyjoe
Sly
***
United States United States
Posts: 223



« Reply #6 on: January 18, 2013, 07:41:01 PM »

I wouldnt get your hopes up too much. But like I always say "If you think its right for you, go for it!" Right on!
Logged

"Sly til the day I die"
JT16
Learning the way of Sly
*
United States United States
Posts: 8


« Reply #7 on: January 19, 2013, 12:55:27 PM »

It could be she's making an effort to improve her eye contact.
Could be a sign of interest.

Personally, I'd shoot first and ask questions later.
Logged
Switchy
Nice old man ;) Yepper
Ultimate Sly Guy
*****
United States United States
Posts: 991


No Worries, Be Happy !


« Reply #8 on: January 19, 2013, 02:43:27 PM »

You also have to look at her facial expression and see the full body movement.  A trained eye tells you many things . Wink  Also your reaction tells her many things about you.   Right on!
Logged

"Continuous effort---not strength or intelligence---is the key to unlocking our potential." 
                                                                                                             -SIR WINSTON CHURCHHILL
slyjoe
Sly
***
United States United States
Posts: 223



« Reply #9 on: January 19, 2013, 02:46:59 PM »

I agree with Switchy, same goes for high school too. Is all the same.
Logged

"Sly til the day I die"
benlen
Guest
« Reply #10 on: January 20, 2013, 01:16:41 PM »

Thanks for the advice fellas!

No, I'm not looking for a relationship or to date this particular woman, haha, just to clarify. I was more interested in deciphering those rare instances where women, whether they are attracted to men or not, seem to have eye contact unlike that of most women. It always startles me when it happens, so I wanted to see what folks other experiences were with this.
Logged
Tyler
The Count of Sly
Administrator
Sly Nobility
*****
United States United States
Posts: 12018



WWW
« Reply #11 on: January 20, 2013, 10:52:48 PM »

I'm one that likes to smile at people when I make eye contact.  It's a habit I started about 10 years ago when I learned that it's almost impossible for someone not to smile back at you when they see you smiling at them.  I recommend everyone try it. 

This will do a few things for you.  It will help you get in the habit of looking people in the eyes.  It will make you seem more outgoing. And it will often help you meet some really interesting people in life.

Most importantly, I think it helps give the other person a little slice of happiness in their day.  You never know how a simple smile could change someone's day for the better.
Logged

People are not limited by the circumstance that they are born in. They are limited by the size of their dreams. Show them that their dreams can have no limits and in turn their accomplishments can be limitless.
Sly Bald Guys Forum
« Reply #11 on: January 20, 2013, 10:52:48 PM »

 Logged
Gary~
Being...
Super Sly
****
Australia Australia
Posts: 385


27-April-2013


« Reply #12 on: January 20, 2013, 11:52:25 PM »

I'm one that likes to smile at people when I make eye contact.  It's a habit I started about 10 years ago when I learned that it's almost impossible for someone not to smile back at you when they see you smiling at them.  I recommend everyone try it. 

This will do a few things for you.  It will help you get in the habit of looking people in the eyes.  It will make you seem more outgoing. And it will often help you meet some really interesting people in life.

Most importantly, I think it helps give the other person a little slice of happiness in their day.  You never know how a simple smile could change someone's day for the better.

That [^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^] is a good, cheap and simple thing to do. When I go to town tomorrow I'm going to consciously give it a try and see what happens.
Logged




                                    Be kind...
Frontier Guy
Team Sly
Sly Bureau
******
Posts: 1717


SBC: Sly By Choice ... "Since May 18, 2012"


« Reply #13 on: January 21, 2013, 07:53:11 PM »

I think your "weirdo sensor" would be going off if that was her thinking.

I'd chalk it up to either she's interested (doesn't matter whether you are or not) or that she's just a happy and friendly person who is probably fun and uplifting to be around.
Logged

"Sly can adapt to all surroundings!" - Wisdom from KG 8/19/2012
tom gallagher
Team Sly
Sly Nobility
******
United States United States
Posts: 5437



« Reply #14 on: January 22, 2013, 10:24:39 AM »

I agree with JT16..Shoot first and ask questions later.
Logged
Pages: [1] 2 Send this topic Print 
« previous next »
Jump to:  


Login with username, password and session length

Enter your email address:



Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.19 | SMF © 2013, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!
Real Time Analytics